Happy Friday, friends!
Before I get to the goods, I wanted to bring up the subject of an amazing post from Hangry Pants Heather. She is a bride-to-be and has covered a lot of great topics over these past few months of wedding planning, but today’s subject, the name change issue, particularly resonated with me. I ended up writing more in the comments section than I ever knew I had to say, and I thought I would re-post it here and ask for you thoughts as well, because I am truly curious about the differing opinions.
Here’s the gist of what I said (because I love bullet points):
- I have yet to make the legal change (mainly for business and busyness reasons) but eventually will because I want my kids to have the same last name as me.
- When I do make the change, I will keep all my names. Jennifer Lynn Korducki Krenn.
- I will go by Jenn Krenn – and yes, I do enjoy the fact that it rhymes!
- That said, I really enjoy being Jenn Korducki professionally. Having started a business with that name, it has proven very difficult for me to let it go. Plus, it’s unique and has an animal in it. 😉
- My mom is Joyce Buss. She never changed her name because she was proud of her CPA certification and I also happen to believe a bit of a feminist, whether she admits it or not.
- Growing up, this wasn’t much of an issue, except when kids would wonder why we had different last names if my parents were still married.
So in the end, I am going to change my name, but keep my name at the same time. And I think there is also no reason why I can’t still be “Jenn Korducki” professionally, at least for right now.
I talked further with my mom about this after I posted it and she wanted to add another, very important reason to her list. When she got married to my dad, her own father had passed away a few years prior. As the middle child in a family of three girls, another major reason she kept his last name was to honor him and keep his legacy alive through her, since as a family of Buss women, they would not be passing it on to their children.
All that said, what I also didn’t convey properly in my comment on Heather’s blog is that I do genuinely want to be connected to Bobby and his last name! My internal dilemma really has nothing to do with this aspect of the issue – it has never even been a question that I would, in some way, incorporate “Krenn” into my new identity. My biggest identity question truly stems from a professional standpoint, and I believe I have come up with a compromise that works.
So tell me, what do you think about changing your name after you are married? I am really glad that Heather addressed it and would love to hear what my own readers have to say!
Recently, Bobby and I traveled down Abby Road to get to one delicious dinner.
For Christmas, one of my best gal pals gave us a Groupon to Barclay’s Wine. We were so excited to use it and were able to snag six amazing wines as a result. Two of them were from Abby Road and this cabernet sauvignon was amazing.
Just looking at the description on the website makes you want to open a bottle:
Cabernet is one of the most popular grapes and Abby Road’s inaugural work with the grape is stunning. A blend of 75% Cabernet Sauvignon with 9% Sangiovese, 8% Syrah & 8% Cabernet Franc balance out this superb wine. A deep dark color introduces you to the wine and makes you excited for the first sip. Dark cherry and black currant notes mesh with a little scent of cedar on the nose, which adds to the anticipation. A full and smooth mouthfeel is complemented by blueberry and leather notes. The fruit lingers balanced by a subtle hint of coffee and balanced tannins on the finish. Luscious Washington Cab at its finest.
Served in a fittingly French stemless wine glass. We received these from one of my bridesmaids as part of our wedding gift and use them all of the time now!
What better way to serve wine than with pasta?
We combined regular tomato sauce with a bag of frozen vegetables and plenty of spinach, freshly chopped mushrooms and shrimp to create the topping for our whole wheat curly cue pasta.
What are your plans for the weekend?
I’m hanging out with a good friend on Saturday, and my Sunday is wide open (yay)!
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts on Heather’s question, too.