Feeling Peachy: Baby Bender Details

by Jenn (eating bender) on September 15, 2014

Thank you all so much for the kind words on our big (little) announcement. Being able to share the news has made us feel all the more excited and extremely grateful for the amazing family and friends we are blessed to have in our lives.

I feel like there is now so much I want to say! Reading pregnancy updates from blog friends over the years has been such a treat for me, and I look forward to the chance to do the same – especially now that I am feeling (relatively) more normal than I have in weeks.* I’ve loved reading about baby bumps (!!), birth plans, diapering decisions – you name it.

That said, the blog won’t become all baby all the time. Beyond the book reviews and travel recaps that have been making a consistent appearance lately, I do really want to get back to talking about food! This first trimester has been about eating what I can stomach (cheese! carbs! waffles? chicken tenders?), but as my appetite slowly returns, I am looking forward to finding new ways to nourish the three of us – yep, Bobby included. :) And what better time for that to happen than my favorite season? Yay, fall!

So all that is to say that I hope you’ll be hearing a lot more from me on all fronts. I’ve also created a Family page to house all pregnancy- and baby-related posts.

And now, without further ado, a few more details on Baby Bender.

*Famous last words.


Baby K-cropped

Baby is the size of…

Today I am officially 13 weeks pregnant, and our baby is the size of a peach! This puts our due date at right around the first day of spring in March 2015. It makes me smile to think that he or she will be arriving at the start of a season celebrating new life.

How we found out/how I told Bobby

I found out right after the Fourth of July. I had been feeling a little off while Lauren was visiting, but didn’t want to get everyone’s hopes up (mine included). I secretly took a test that Sunday and it was negative, so I decided to wait three days before taking another one.

On Wednesday, July 9, I had to wake up early for a 5 a.m. work call. At 4:45 a.m., I decided hey, let me take a test in the dark right before I talk to these people. Not my smartest move, but definitely one of the greatest decisions I’ve ever made. A few minutes later, I shined my phone flashlight on the test window and there it was: a (very) faint pink line next to the test line. I did a double take and immediately thought my phone was playing tricks on me, so I grabbed the test and practically sprinted to the kitchen to get a better look using the overhead lighting.

There was no denying it – the pink line was there, and it could only mean one thing. I promptly burst into happy tears and began an endless chorus of “Oh my Gods” and “Thank yous” and “I promise I’m going to take such good care of yous.”

Then I realized it was 4:59 a.m. and I hadn’t even turned my computer on.

I logged in and joined the conference. It was by far the longest call of my life! Fortunately Bobby was still sleeping soundly, and when the call wrapped up – I can remember speaking during it but honestly couldn’t tell you anything I said – I still had enough time to set up my big reveal.


A few months prior, I bought this adorable “house divided” onesie from Annalie’s Baby Boutique.

Packers Vikes Onesie

As you may know, Bobby and I are big Vikings and Packers (and football) fans, so it seemed appropriate that I would combine two of our three favorite teams to tell him our news. I set up a hidden video camera to document his reaction. I’m so glad I did because it has been such a treat to look back on the moment and remember how shocked and excited he was!

Surprise 3

I may or may not have proceeded to take about 10 more tests over the next two weeks…

How we told our family

I consider myself a trustworthy person, but when it comes to my own secrets, I’m no good! It was incredibly hard not to instantly tell our family and friends, but at the same time we both knew we’d feel better if we gave it a little time.

When that time finally did come, however, their reactions were the best! We told my family by giving Uncle Eric a new “Northwestern shirt,” which was actually from Etsy and not Northwestern at all beyond its purple color. It said, “Only the best brothers get promoted to UNCLE.”

Eric read the t-shirt out loud and then said, “Uncle? Wait…what?”

Uncle Wait What

To which Mama Bender replied, “Really? REALLY?!” before making this amazing face. She also let out a scream that was a few octaves higher than anything I’d ever heard from her!

Mama B

Papa Bender (who had briefly left the room, not knowing what was happening) was called back in by Uncle Eric, who told him that he had received a Northwestern shirt. “You’re not going to believe what it says…” A Papa Bender-worthy yell soon followed.

Papa B

Just looking at these pictures puts such a huge grin on my face. We also gave my parents a couple mementos. As first-time grandparents, I thought this plaque (also from Etsy) was appropriate.


I also found a duck-themed outfit for our last name and wrote a little poem to go with it.


Soon after, it was time to tell Bobby’s side of the family! Hats off to Etsy yet again for having these awesome week-by-week food-themed announcements. We ordered a blueberry for ours, knowing that was the size our baby would be when we told them in week seven.



I should add that the tag said “Open me on Skype!” rather than just “Open me.” In fact, I think I wrote, “Wait to open me on Skype” at least five different ways when I sent them their packages, haha. Clearly I didn’t want the surprise to be spoiled. :)


When we told Bobby’s parents, his dad wrote down his guess as to what this big surprise might be on a sheet of paper. Wouldn’t you know that he guessed right?


Cara, Jim, Kelly and Caroline were surprised! We particularly enjoyed the girls’ name suggestions: pencil, marker and “choo-ku” courtesy of Kelly, blueberry and “lalalalapfffft” courtesy of Caroline.


And Adam and Susan were surprised, too! Claire and Molly were sleeping when we told them, but we were able to relay the news again to the ladies the next day. It was so much fun – telling people has definitely been one of my favorite parts so far!


A few more fun facts from the first weeks:

Early symptoms

The funniest one came before I knew I was pregnant. When we walked into my family’s house during Fourth of July weekend, I was overcome with the sense that I had stepped into a fish market! I immediately asked if they were cooking seafood. They looked at me strangely and said they hadn’t even had fish in the house that day. No one else could smell any trace of it. (It turned out they’d bought some the day before and it was still lingering!)

My heightened sense of smell definitely did not go away. The top two symptoms I’ve experienced this first trimester are fatigue – prescription: daily naps – and nausea. Fortunately just nausea and nothing more – although it has been “all day sickness,” not “morning sickness.” One other strange one: my eyesight has turned into that of a camera lens trying to focus. I don’t wear glasses, but lately when I do things like read a book or look down at a golf ball the image goes in and out. That said, I have no complaints about any of it! Every day I grow this baby is a huge blessing.

Will we find out the sex?

We spent the first several weeks set on the idea that we would be surprised. I love the concept of waiting, especially for your first child. But the more we talked about it, the more we started realizing that there are a lot of benefits to finding out, too. For us, it’s a personality thing – I’ve always been a planner who likes to think about things far in advance, and Bobby thinks he’d be happier knowing, too. We both don’t have a preference – we’ll be amazingly happy whether it’s a he or a she! Right now, I have no hunches, either – although I do accidentally keep referring to the baby as “he.” Only time will tell if that’s mother’s intuition or not. :)

Exercise, food…cravings?

I’d like to say that I’ve been exercising daily and devouring leafy green salads, but the truth is I’m lucky to squeeze in one workout a week and vegetables have pretty much been off the table since week six. I’ve loved going on walks and finding less intense ways to get movin’ (it also helps with the “all day” sickness) and have been cutting myself some slack and simply eating what sounds good. Smoothies and pre-natal vitamins have helped me get in key nutrients, but beyond that it has been a steady diet of string cheese, apples, peanut butter, potato chips, macaroni and cheese…and pretty much anything else in the carb or cheese family. The strangest cravings I’ve had to date have been for waffles and chicken tenders (though not necessarily together).

Bobby has been absolutely amazing, cooking many of our meals and acting like it’s totally delicious to eat said macaroni and cheese multiple nights a week. I hope to repay him with many a tasty new meal in the second trimester.

Biggest surprise and best moment?

My biggest surprise so far has been how calm I feel. Maybe it’s because it hasn’t fully hit me yet how much life is going to change – or maybe it’s because after spending a lot of time around new parents, I’m already semi-aware of just how much it will! What I do know is that I’ve never felt more ready in my life – or more in the love with the guy who is going down this new road with me.

Our best moment was by far when we got to see our little peach on the ultrasound for the first time. At nine weeks, five days, he or she was technically the size of a grape. I will always remember the joy of seeing the heartbeat flickering on screen.

Becoming parents is the most terrifyingly wonderful thing we’ll ever do. There are going to be hard days and easy days, happy days and overwhelmingly emotional days, too. But I can’t wait to meet the tiny someone who will make it all worth it.



1 glidingcalm September 15, 2014 at 10:19 pm

ahhh! im so excited for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
my boy’s sister is due early Feb, so it’s pretty exciting to soon have a newborn over here too!

loved this post! THANK YOU FOR SHARING! so happy for you and B!

2 Jenn (eating bender) September 15, 2014 at 11:20 pm

Thank you so much, GC!!! And big congrats to your boy’s sis – that’s amazing news!! :)

3 Cara September 15, 2014 at 10:26 pm

Loved reading all the “reveal” stories! I didn’t know you snapped a screenshot of us all — hilarious! I’m sure you’ll start feeling better and better each day that passes (although I’m definitely still going for the potato chips along with the healthy stuff myself…) As far as you feeling calm, I have never met parents-to-be that are more ready for a baby than you two — seriously. You are going to make an amazing mama!
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4 Jenn (eating bender) September 15, 2014 at 11:22 pm

Haha – surprise!! We actually got video of all of you, too. So fun, and we are seriously considering “choo-ku” as a middle name. 😉 Thank you so much for the sweet words on becoming parents. It means a lot to me! xoxo

5 Kelli H (Made in Sonoma) September 15, 2014 at 10:56 pm

I’m so excited to read these updates! I love how you revealed it to everyone in your families. So cute that you were able to get photos. I’m glad pregnancy is going well so far! Also, on a side note, your parents kitchen is amazingly beautiful!
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6 Jenn (eating bender) September 17, 2014 at 1:33 pm

Thank you so much, Kelli!! It is definitely fun to have it documented. And thank you for the compliment on their kitchen – my mom designed it so I will be sure to tell her! :)

7 Aine @ AwkwardIrishGirlBlogs September 16, 2014 at 4:06 am

Agh this is such an exciting time!!! Congratulations :)
I can’t get over how cute the lil blueberry box was, too adorable!

8 Jenn (eating bender) September 17, 2014 at 1:34 pm

Thank you so much, Aine!! The blueberry box was my favorite. :)

9 Liz S. September 16, 2014 at 4:49 am

Aww, I love this!!! So lovely seeing the family’s reactions and for the updates. I hope you’re able to remain as calm and stress-free as possible through the entire pregnancy! Hugs and good vibes xo

10 Jenn (eating bender) September 17, 2014 at 1:35 pm

Thank you so much, as always, Liz!! Here’s hoping calm and stress-free are a reality, haha. xoxo

11 Erica September 16, 2014 at 7:16 am

Please post about the baby all the time :) I get excited whenever I see a baby themed post from you :) SO happy. I am tearing up reading about how you revealed the pregnancy (and I am NOT a crier). I don’t know how people wait to find out….I could never do it!!

12 Jenn (eating bender) September 17, 2014 at 1:48 pm

Haha! Well if you say so… :) And you make my heart happy with your sweet words. Thank you so much for your support – it means the world to me!

13 Claire September 16, 2014 at 10:20 am

Jenn! Just wanted to stop in and say CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!! I’m so happy for you and Bobby, and can practically hear your excitement as I read the blog today :) Amelia has been life-changing, but in the very best way possible for us, and to see people that I love begin to experience it too is such a cool, cool thing. Prayers for a healthy pregnancy, and for the all-day sickness to subside. It’s always a doozy in the first few months, but alas, know that there’s a huge light at the end of the tunnel, and it’ll all be worth it. Now, let’s get that baby-to-be some BSM gear!!! xoxo, Claire S.

14 Jenn (eating bender) September 17, 2014 at 1:53 pm

Ahhh thank you so much, Claire!! It has been equally cool for me to follow your adventures with Amelia, and to hear how it has changed your life in such amazing ways. I appreciate your well wishes so much and totally agree, some BSM gear needs to happen ASAP!! Hope all is well with you – we should definitely try to catch up in person during a future visit to MN (or if you ever find yourself in AZ)! xoxo

15 Lauren September 16, 2014 at 10:48 am

SO SO SO happy for you hun! You and Bobby are going to make amazing parents and I can’t wait to follow along with your journey. Enjoy this time. There is nothing like being pregnant! :)

16 Jenn (eating bender) September 17, 2014 at 1:57 pm

Thank you so much, Lauren!! I am definitely looking forward to every moment of this pregnancy journey – and am doubly excited to meet Baby Roy very soon! Such an exciting time all around. :)

17 Chelsea @ Designs on Dinner September 16, 2014 at 12:47 pm

Awww, what a sweet post. Have fun growing that little peach. :)
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18 Jenn (eating bender) September 17, 2014 at 1:58 pm

Thank you so much, Chelsea! :)

19 Susan September 16, 2014 at 4:05 pm

Love, love this. Beautifully written. I love all the pictures, too. Great expressions from everyone – future parents, grandparents – the whole gang. :)
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20 Jenn (eating bender) September 17, 2014 at 1:59 pm

Thank you, Susan!! I am really glad we thought to sneakily video you all because it has been a lot of fun to re-watch. :) This morning we got to hear the baby’s heartbeat for the first time – going strong at 162!

21 Angie September 16, 2014 at 5:48 pm

I’m crying happy tears that a new baby will be in one of my kiddos old rooms! We are all so very happy for you and all of your family… especially the little guy (or girl)!

22 Jenn (eating bender) September 17, 2014 at 2:01 pm

Thank you, Angie!! It is equally special for us to be able to bring our baby back to such an amazing place to call home. :)

23 Monica September 17, 2014 at 11:50 am

Amazing post :) Loved hearing about how you found out – and so impressed (though not surprised;)) that you were able to plan and capture the big reveal so thoughtfully and creatively! Baby Bender is going to love looking back on this one day :) Can’t wait for more pregnancy details to come!

24 Jenn (eating bender) September 17, 2014 at 8:39 pm

Thank you, Monica!! It was a lot of fun to plan! I’m definitely looking forward to the day when I can share how excited everyone was to meet him or her. :)

25 Shannon September 23, 2014 at 11:54 am

this post totally had me smiling ear to ear :) so happy for you guys!

26 Jenn (eating bender) September 23, 2014 at 2:15 pm

Aw, thank you, Shannon!! :)

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